Who will cry when you cry- Law of Limitations
I have read Robin Sharma’s book “Who will cry when you die” but I was thinking of a situation who will cry when you cry. After death what happens nobody knows but during the period of life what happens is an important fact. It was said that every aspect of relation is influenced by certain equal expectations from others. In life I always wonder do we create an expectation on relation but miss or ignore the relation. The other important aspect in life may be a rule is that in most important situations we remember the people whom we like and invariably we miss the people whom we like. These aspects make me to think on some of the aspects of life and also my experiences on some of the matters connected with this.
Every individual in his life will undergo some tough moments and some emotional moments. One become stronger and can emerge stronger during tough moments if the person has determination and his determination will see him through. On Emotional moments the person should ensure that he does not succumb to emotions and carry his emotions through to himself and leave the emotions behind. The emotions which left behind become a good lesson for the future. In my view” Experience is a best lesson that a person can have”. Experience teaches everything in life but sometimes it is extremely painful too.
In younger days I used to have lot of friends and lot of people around me. I never used to have time to think on failures as my mind is always cheerful and playful. Enjoyed every bit in those relations because no expectations on either side. The mind was not matured but relations were stronger and at that age we enjoy everything; No disappointments because no expectations; Rarely one get hurt emotionally and even if a person gets hurt emotionally by one there are so many other people around us will always cheer you. But when we grow up, we believe we become more matured as our mind also grows up, but the relations today is not stronger as it used to be; Most of our relations though we believe it is stronger somewhere suffers from expectation gap or failure to understand the basic tenet of a humanness behind the relation; Another reason for such a state of affairs in relation is probably we spend less time in nurturing a relation or trying to understand other person. Finally the ego or lack of ego gets into any relation due to differences in stature, fear on the other person and may be a person’s decision to value the relation based on the nature of benefit that comes out of that relation. It becomes constant endeavor of us to give value addition in the relation in order to encourage mutual reciprocation. In today’s world the most apt saying in my view is “I reciprocate love on you as long as I need you”. When one of my colleagues tells me that I have great network and I have strong relation with lot others my response is that “people will exhibit love as long as they need me”.
One of the persons whom I consider so close and treat that person so high once remarked that “ I am confused on you as to what you are and I am not able to gauge you”. Another person who is very close to me whom I love so much as a person remarked “Sekar I know I am in your list of the most important person but you are not in my list”. I thought through. Though these may be casual remarks but still it made me to think as to what I am. I concluded though I like to be somebody for the people whom I love but finally I am nobody to anybody.
In last two weeks I got into touch with a person whom i really liked after a gap of 28 years. I started knowing this person when I was 14 years old and I maintained my contacts till I was 19 years. Post that I lost touch and contacts with that person. But certainly the impact of four years is very high as it is in my memory for last 28 years and remember everything about that person, my old days of conversation despite my preoccupation in my life with various other matters. Though i am extremely happy on this development but not sure whether this will continue as very often destiny is the decider. In life the relation matrix gets changed when we grow up. It is not the problem with the people but problem in our mind.
I remembered to have read a poem in Tamil which indicated to me that “Life is like a mirror. You see what you are and you get what you give” I am not sure whether it applies every-time in life but sometimes I believe that we should carry positively and take every aspect as a learning curve and proceed. The law of limitation not only applies in legal sense but also in emotional life. Who will cry when you cry- It is the limitation law prescribed by nature will decide.
